Hilary Rosen Was Right About Ann Romney…Sort Of

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The way Rosen said what she said was clumsy and inartful. There’s no doubt about that. That’s why so many Dems are backing away from her comments, including Obama.

But, as the title suggests, she’s right. Sort of. Because she was talking about actual work. You know, the kind we measure and report and obsess over every month? Yeah, that kind.

Still, given the way she said it, it appears as if Rosen is saying that raising children isn’t work. Of course it is, and I doubt that’s what Rosen meant. Her friend Greta Van Sustren backs that up…

In making that remark about Mrs. Romney and her choice to raise a family and not work outside the home simultaneously, I know Hilary knows raising children is hard work, really hard work…the absolute hardest work. Hilary has children. That is the best way to know the challenge of raising children – have them! Hilary is not anti-stay-at-home mom.

I did not read Hilary’s comments to in anyway take away from the hard chore of raising children or staying at home and raising them and not working outside the family. I read it to mean that raising children without financial pressure is easier than having financial pressure.

Well put Greta, but I think there’s something else missing in your argument. The idea of choice.

Listen, I have a TON of respect for women who decide to stay at home and raise children. One day I hope to have children of my own and I’d hope my partner would stay at home to raise them…or vice versa. Yes, I’d love to be a stay at home dad. That would rock and I would be awesome at it. True story.

But having children is a choice. Having an actual “job” and making your way in the world is not. Well, at least for most people. There are some trust fund babies out there who don’t have to work if they don’t want to, but they’re few and far between.

So yes, while the way Hilary Rosen made her point almost invalidates it, the idea that having children is an actual job that compares to going to work at McDonald’s is just not correct. Because, if it is, we should measure the economic benefits of being a mom (or dad) and add those folks to the numbers of gainfully employed.

But if we’re not willing to do that, well, being a mom isn’t a job. Not in the technical sense. And that’s what Rosen meant.

I welcome your thoughts.